You've often heard the cliché "once a parent, always a parent." Our concern and sense of responsibility does not end simply because our children become adults. This is especially true for families who are caring for developmentally disabled relatives who must be under some type of full-time supervision.

You can imagine that an occasional break from this responsibility is sometimes greatly needed. To meet this need, the county contracts with several respite centers. This makes it possible for caregivers to confidently place a family member place while they take care of personal business, keep medical appointments or take a much-needed vacation.

Respite care for families caring for adults with developmental disabilities is a Medicaid-covered expense - a definite indicator that this is a needed service.

While respite care centers are a great option for families, they are not perfect. For instance, they aren't drop-off centers - prior arrangements need to be made. It can be really difficult to secure placement over the weekends. There is a fairly high staff turnover in these centers making it somewhat traumatic for the developmentally disabled who sometimes function best with routine and familiarity. And, even in times of low demand, daily operational expenses must be met, making this option somewhat less cost effective.

The "Shared Parenting" program, developed and implemented by Macomb County Community Mental Health, offers a very effective and cost efficient alternative to traditional respite care.

The program taps others who are willing to offer temporary care in their own homes for developmentally disabled adults. Ideally, a "co-parent" is someone who is well acquainted with the family. They are neighbors, church members or extended family who already know the person who needs care. Co-parents agree to participate in training in order to be a part of the program and also submit to a criminal background check. Co-parents are compensated for their service. Each is provided with a stipend of $60 per day for their services. In contrast, respite care in a traditional setting costs an average of $163 per day.

This project is extremely worthwhile, not just because of the significant cost savings it provides, but also for the sense of security it offers to families and the developmentally disabled adults they care for.

For more information, click Community Mental Health